In this new series, Masturbation and the Black Girl , we will be interviewing three Black women on their experiences with sexuality, sex ed, and masturbation. Every other week, stay tuned for the next story. We are grateful these women chose O. Harsh responses from family members about my body used to be a constant in my life. I was 11 and more developed than my friends.
Who really knows? But I do believe they view it differently. So why is this the case? One White woman suggested that White women who are often presented as sexual objects in the media, are eager to perform those same roles for men; while Black women, who have higher rates and a history of sexual violence, and are often hypersexualized and demonized in society, view the act differently. A Black woman, who happens to hang around a lot of White people offered that White women equate sex with feminism and being liberated and fun, like Amy Schumer. The thought of the differences in our approach to sex and sexuality came back to my head again, after reading an article on Jezebel about body count.
Every year of high school, I had a different group of friends. As a freshman, most of my friends were well-liked and white. As a sophomore, most of the girls I clung to were Latina. By junior year, I had a group of friends for each class of the day. By my senior year, I fell into a group of mostly white friends that would remain my group of friends all the way through my freshman year of college.
I had on my sunglasses to disguise where I was looking. Then a strange thing happened. A young man about 20 passed in front of me.